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For those with children growing up, this is something to ponder – if you haven’t already – Revealing all your assets is not what it used to be. So would you click or not click? I do like the advise from her friend – “Always crop your face out, darling. Your lover will still know it’s you.”

Has anyone been watching Outlander? Apparently it is making waves in television land for presenting a (hetrosexual) female-gaze. After reading this and watching this (nudity warning), it makes me think why is it that the women have been the ones showing their assets and not the men? For what reason? Is this the new normal? God forbid!

My choice will be rather than to click, I will do the Super Power Pose. Harvard associate professor Amy Cuddy explained that “power posing”—for example, standing like Wonder Woman—not only makes you appear confident, but actually changes your brain chemistry to make you more courageous. Found here.

 

So in the same week as more assets are revealed, we have Emma Watson’s UN speech. Well done Hermione.

 

It refers me back to this riddle……

A father and his son are in a car accident. The father dies instantly, and the son is taken to the nearest hospital. The doctor comes in and exclaims, “I can’t operate on this boy.” “Why not?” the nurse asks. “Because he’s my son,” the doctor responds. How is this possible?

Here’s the answer, below…

The doctor is the boy’s mother.

Did it take you long to get the answer???  Would you have said the same answer 10 years ago? or even 5 years ago?

Now if all this is just creating more fear or stress, I found these articles interesting:

Fear – Seized by the Thunderhold of Fear – Fears stop us from following our dreams, from taking risks, from pursuing love, from seeking adventure, from speaking in public, from going into the unknown, from starting a new venture, from reveling in discomfort. We procrastinate, overeat, find distractions, because of fear. We are seized with constant worry, from fear. And yet, these fears are just clouds.

Stress – Think about the worst possible outcome, then go for a walk. Clarify what can be controlled and what is out of your control. Confirm that everything possible has been done with matters under your control…….then hopefully watch that cloud of fear fly away!

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What have been your toughest interview questions?

Douglas Edwards remembers being interviewed by Google co-founder Sergey Brin: “I’m going to give you five minutes,” he told me. “When I come back, I want you to explain to me something complicated that I don’t already know.” He then rolled out of the room toward the snack area. I looked at Cindy. “He’s very curious about everything,” she told me. “You can talk about a hobby, something technical, whatever you want. Just make sure it’s something you really understand well.”
(What would you explain?)
Found here. (With a great Peggy Olsen tribute)
What about these 5 killer job interview questions. My favourite is “If your friends could summarise you in one word, what would that word be?”
Then similar to that, there is the Nora Ephron game to play – write the five things that describe yourself on a piece of paper. Has that changed from your 20s, 30s or 40s?Then check out these 15 career tips from smart women – found here

Then check out these 15 career tips from smart women – found here
On dealing with critics:

My unsolicited advice to women in the workplace is this. When faced with sexism, or ageism, or lookism, or even really aggressive Buddhism, ask yourself the following question: “Is this person in between me and what I want to do?” If the answer is no, ignore it and move on. Your energy is better used doing your work and outpacing people that way. Then, when you’re in charge, don’t hire the people who were jerky to you.—Tina Fey

Yes, the more successful you are—or the stronger, the more opinionated—the less you will be generally liked. All of a sudden people will think you’re too “braggy,” too loud, too something. But the trade off is undoubtedly worth it. Power and authenticity are worth it.—Jessica Valenti

For small business owners, here are 3 words to stay focused and motivated when it comes to maintaining and growing your business – the 3 C’s (Confidence, Competence and Connections) – found here

Also some good career lessons from A Cup of Jo – found here

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Now Then Whenever – Music/Inspire

I haven’t done a Music post for a while, but check out this site. Fantastic!! – Un hear it. A website to replace that catch song in your head. Guaranteed by me. Found here

Oddly this alcohol ad was also enjoyable to watch… care of here.

But this is the best find ever… 30 Fantastic Websites to take care of the job boredom for a while.

Then on another track altogether…. read this article about, Think Big, Start Small. But don’t move from that site, because there is another interesting article from there. Want to Meet More People? Make Things

Oh, but wait one more. Have you hear of Smart Girls at the Party? I hadn’t, but I am looking forward to following it. Found here.

Then check out this video – Empathy and Sympathy, Do you know the difference? Found here

I can’t say I not a worrier at all, but reading this Worry Worry Worry Too Much article made me think, maybe I am on the border line. I have had similar thoughts. But getting back to a way to interact with the real world, I am liking these – 9 places I’d like to travel to

 
Whilst we are on the subject of holiday’s check out this list of 23 Best Airbnb listings.

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How do you feel about this … ‘If you continue to follow the same patterns, what are the chances you’ll ever experience the things you want to do and ever become the person you hope to be?’ Found here

I think there is a chance. I think you can have a very rewarding day-to-day routine that won’t be a boring, but where you can have Autonomy (Active and Engaged), Mastery (Improve) & Purpose (Legacy). I am all for improvement in what I try to do, and efficiency, but I wish it would also transpose that to my exercise regime or routine. Somehow I just can’t quite get the the gym as much as I would like, if at all!

Anyway, it is worth while watching this video on Daniel Pink – Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us. His book is on my list to read.

It is also worth reading Netflix’s HR program. Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg has called it one of the most important documents ever to come out of Silicon Valley (I am currently reading Sheryl’s book – Lean In). It is worth while looking at their presentation – apparently it has been viewed over 5 million times – How Netflix reinvented HR.

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This That Whatever/Now Then Whenever

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I like to have some creative work in my job, and this photo would be an inspiring place to work. But, as yet, that is not possible.

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So, in the meantime, I will continue to be organised for my job and work on my blog to inspire. So, I found these interesting when I read them.

How To Write a Better Goals List
How to Write a Better To-Do List

Then whilst I was trying to find ways to be motivated/more creative at work I read this. 5 keys to being an exceptional Executive Assistant (though I already know this, it is worth to note to keep me focused):

Be Organized
  • Keep lists, especially a to-do list.
  • Take notes in meetings and during phone calls. I always keep a pad of paper next to my phone and take it with me when he calls me into his office.
  • Use a monthly calendar book to keep track of work that is only done once a month or once a year.
  • To help out my boss, I take notes on things that we discuss that need done even if I am not the one completing the task. I cross out the duty when it is completed. This helps me follow up on the tasks to make sure he did them and is a huge help considering that he is very forgetful.

Prioritize/Time Management

  • Know the dues dates and time limits on your projects. Make sure you have all the information you need at your fingertips before beginning the project.
  • If your boss asks you to do something, do it right away. This is an unspoken rule in my office.
  • I always review my to-do list every morning to prioritize my day and I spend the last 15 minutes of my day updating my to-do list for tomorrow.

Think Ahead

  • You should always be one step ahead of your boss. After you get to know him, you will probably know what questions he’s going to ask you before he does, this way you can be prepared and look smart at the same time.
  • Be on your toes, ready to jump and help out when needed.

Be Productive

  • Learn to multi-task, this will help you save time.
  • Have a plan for your workload and be flexible if an emergency happens.

Work Quickly and Efficiently

  • Have a sense of urgency in everything you do, work swiftly.
  • Once you know the ins and outs of your job responsibilities and tasks start picking up the pace and try to streamline some of the processes you use to get your job completed.

Then there were some points on getting to know your Executive: (Frankly it is exhausting just reading it, no?):

Gain Their Trust
  • Be discreet and remember to be confidential when dealing with personal issues. It shows tackiness and low-class when an assistant gossips with the rest of the office about their executive’s private matters.
  • Being dependable is another part of gaining their trust. Always be reliable.
  • Know Their Quirks
  • Get to know your executive, their likes and dislikes.
  • Soak up as much information as possible.

Communication

  • Don’t be afraid to ask your executive questions or to speak up and make suggestions.
  • If you don’t understand something, ask right away. Executives hate nothing more than the person who doesn’t ask questions and tries to get the job done on what they “think” the executive wants. It’s better to ask too many questions than none at all. This also shows that you are thinking through the process.
  • Tell him what is on your to-do list. If I have too much going on and my brain just cannot wrap around it all, he will usually help me prioritize my work.

Be Totally Committed

  • Be accommodating, go out of your way to get things done.
  • Be present in your job mentally. Don’t think that you can come to work and that this is “just a job”. Think of it as a smart career move.
  • Learn about the industry and your company, this way you will know what you are talking about and can contribute some decent input.
  • Be flexible, if your executive asks you to work late or to run an errand, don’t complain in front of him. Just do it and get it over with.

Be Calm, Cool and Collected

  • Be the problem solver and remember to use positive thinking. When your executive is freaking out about something, he may not be levelheaded at the moment and it will be your responsibility to set things straight.
  • Be sensible, stay calm, and talk in composed tones. Never get dramatic when discussing a situation with your executive. This shows that you just want to solve the problem and move on.

Then, did you also read this article. I thought these points were interesting…

  • Develop your confidence by understanding your strengths and successes
  • Acknowledge your weaknesses but don’t be ashamed by them
  • Identify the barriers standing in the way of becoming a great leader and create a plan to overcome them
  • “Develop a strong internal compass” by recognising who you really are and by being clear on your values
  • Stop comparing yourself to others because that undermines your self-esteem
  • “Question your own biases” by challenging any unfair generalisations of the female gender that you may have personally formed
  • Take responsibility by admitting you can’t change what happens to you, but you can change how you respond to it
  • Learn to have crucial and honest conversations
  • Rather than becoming defensive or aggressive, choose instead to embrace vulnerability as part of the process of being authentic
  • Be the kind of boss that inspires other women to work for you by being fair, consistent, collaborative, informed, caring, and “capable of tough love in order to help others reach their potential”

Then moving away from work, I like these words of wisdom.

Words of advice to bloggers. Another here and here. I like these tips and tricks.

Advice on Collaborating or investing in your business,

Ideas on how to regain creativity or resolve to be happy

4 questions you must ask yourself – found here

Some resolutions here and here

And for something little different – How to be your own brandHow I Organize My Magazine Clippings and Stress Free Weekly Dinner Planning

Or for something more physical what about a bit of a workout. I personally am on an addiction to my pedometer. I can’t leave home without it. I am on a quest to do 10,000 steps per day and with all the changes I have been thru last year it has been the one thing that has stuck.
Anyway, on a recent walk,I picked up the latest Elle Decoration and found this interesting article from the Editor-in-Chief, Michelle Ogundehin (previously blogged here and here). I feel like I have to go for another walk after reading it.

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So taking the lead from the editor of my favourite magazine…I am pondering these questions for the end of the year….

At the close of every year, I like to take a moment to review the past 365 days in terms of achievements. Not big things like winning a Nobel Prize or getting married, but the smaller gains in life such as how many times I managed to visit the theatre, how many books I made time to read, or new films I saw. Did I travel somewhere unfamiliar, whether within the UK or further afield? Did I cook new dishes, improve my vocabulary or enrich my general knowledge with intriguing exhibitions, talks or conferences? Did I meet new people who expanded my horizons? For, I find, these are the mini milestones that add up to a feeling of a year fully experienced and truly well lived.
It’s too easy to focus only on the attainment of lofty goals, which can leave you feeling like you’ve fallen rather short in life. Whereas, with a ‘baby-steps’ assessment of a year gone by, I can reassure myself that time has passed profitably, rather than just passed. In my opinion, those big life strides are better viewed in retrospect, and in five-year chunks, using the round markers of age as your guide. In other words, are you roughly where you thought you wanted to be at 25, 30, 35, 40, 45, 50 and so on? If not, rather than defaulting to sob, sulk or blame, is it possible to reason why? Did you take a deliberate detour, or have you gone astray? More importantly, can you course-correct to the path that leads where you want to be before the next half decade snaps at your heels?

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I need a bit on inspiring thoughts to get me to the end of the year… and found these.

  1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
  2. Work at something you enjoy and that’s worthy of your time and talent.
  3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
  4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
  5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.
  6. Be generous.
  7. Have a grateful heart.
  8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.
  9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
  10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
  11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.
  12. Commit yourself to quality.
  13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.
  14. Be loyal.
  15. Be honest.
  16. Be a self-starter.
  17. Be decisive even if it means you’ll sometimes be wrong.
  18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
  19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.
  20. Take good care of those you love.
  21. Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your Mom proud.

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    From Regina Brett, an American author

    1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
    2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
    3. Life is too short – enjoy it..
    4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
    5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
    6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
    7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
    8. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.
    9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
    10. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
    11. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
    12. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
    13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it…
    14 Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
    15. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
    16. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
    17. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
    18. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
    19. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
    20. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
    21. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
    22. The most important sex organ is the brain.
    23. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
    24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’
    25. Always choose life.
    26. Forgive but don’t forget.
    27. What other people think of you is none of your business.
    28. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
    29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
    30. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does…
    31. Believe in miracles.
    32. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
    33. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
    34. Your children get only one childhood.
    35. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
    36. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
    37. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
    38. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have not what you need.
    39. The best is yet to come…
    40. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
    41. Yield.
    42. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”
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    There is also this, this and this to read.

    Or 29 Ways to stay creative – view here

    What about going back to charm school. Here
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    And some advise from someone who has turned 40
    speak less, listen more
    say less, do more
    worry less, work more
    ride less, walk more
    eat less, chew more
    start less, finish more
    correct less, prevent more
    blame less, forgive more
    wrestle less, embrace more
    compete less, cooperate more
    take less, give more
    have less, be more
    frown less, laugh more

    Found here and more here

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    Success is such a tricky concept. Who defines it? How do you measure it? Is it a destination? When are you there? Do you measure success by a single goal far reaching you’re always striving for, but never fully achieving, or could success be something you can feel on a daily basis? What if we celebrated mini successes every day? Think of the energizing, satisfying, dare I say successful way it would make us feel?  I would love to find a way to look at life like that, rather than looking so far up the road all the time. I’m not saying that’s easy though. Other people’s measuring sticks are always so appealing {why is that??}. I struggle constantly with feelings of total inadequacy. Even after huge achievements. We are our own worst critics right?    ….. interested to read more? Click here
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